<html><body style="word-wrap: break-word; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; -webkit-line-break: after-white-space; "><div>There is a saying from the Christian Bible, in its Old Testament:</div><div><br></div><div>"Don't worry about the mote in my eye, until you have dealt with the timber in yours."</div><div><br></div><div>[direction of the original reversed and then rendered in current argot, but with some King James version vocabulary ...]</div><div><br></div><div><br></div><div>First of all: I too am aghast at the relative decline / demise, of the IGC list. What a waste, and a great shame.</div><div><br></div><div>I lend my voice, most pointedly, to see a turnaround.</div><div><br></div><div><br></div><div>But.</div><div><br></div><div>To imagine that the problem is with one person (the mote), is to ignore massively the the timber also there.</div><div><br></div><div>Oh my goodness.</div><div><br></div><div>To be clear: Just what is 'ad hominem'? In my too-extended, if personal and individual, travels and travails with 'discussion spaces': Ad hominem is entirely straightforward, not requiring detailed enumeration.</div><div><br></div><div>Ad hominem - the prohibition against it - can be put most simply: _Never_ discuss the persons discussing; never inject those persons into the argumentation. Always, and only, discuss ideas, their logic, and supporting or dissenting evidence.</div><div><br></div><div>Ad hominem is the introduction of talk _about the people talking_. That is proscribed. Period. ... and your mileage may vary.</div><div><br></div><div>(Yes, sometimes it is necessary to talk about bad behavior. Indeed, as we are doing here. That is a 'reserved case.' Then space is set aside specifically for the purpose. Ideas are not the subject, rather the behavior being questioned is the subject.)</div><div><br></div><div>To imagine that the problem, of introducing discussion of those discussing, is the province of one person, of Parminder - to imagine that is utterly not supported by the record. Found hereon, in the archives. Massively, and most sadly.</div><div><br></div><div>Quite regularly, there is innuendo and outright slander. Then. Some / a few / one, find it necessary to respond to very many of the list posts - seemingly to virtually all the threads. (Though probably that is an overstatement, borne of weariness, on seeing it ...) The brew, of personal nastiness together with overflowing intervention on the airwaves, creates - predictably - a toxic discussion space. Useful only to those spewing. And damning the IGC name. Not to mention the ability to get anything done.</div><div><br></div><div><br></div><div>A 'new day' is required, to see any prospect or future. But '_all sides_' have to adopt that new day, with faithful adherence to the proscription against discussing the people discussing. That is the only prospect for a resurrection.</div><div><br></div><div>To imagine that Parminder is somehow the root of this is risible. (And disrespectful of the rest of us, who have eyes and can see.)</div><div><br></div><div>Only if all the folks responsible are noted and join a new day is there any prospect. Even then, it would take some time for a new culture to be trusted.</div><div><br></div><div><br></div><div>To move from the proscribed, to the prescribed - to the positive, over the negative: So, what is the main thrust of a quality, productive discussion space? It is even-handedness, in a word. A certain 'neutrality' with respect to judgment. So that all sides, regardless of position, may be heard and taken account.</div><div><br></div><div>What is the point, in my text here? Evenhandedness, in assessment of the facts, of the history.</div><div><br></div><div>Only if there is honest and complete description of the problem - and those who have been part of it - is there even the beginning of prospect for a better day.</div><div><br></div><div><br></div><div>David</div><div><br></div><br><div><div>On Aug 9, 2013, at 9:16 AM, Bertrand de La Chapelle wrote:</div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline"><blockquote type="cite"><div dir="ltr">Parminder,<div><br></div><div>I have stopped posting on this list for a quite some time now for exactly the reasons that Avri has mentioned. And as one of the people who were at the origin of the creation of this very list and caucus to empower civil society, I am extremely saddened by the way it is currently evolving and indeed becoming irrelevant.</div> <div><br></div><div>I nonetheless feel compelled to react to the most recent exchange. You wrote: "<span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif;font-size:13px"><i>Ad hominem is when one says something like "you tend to twist people's words in order to score political points</i>"".</span></div> <div><br></div><div>I would like to differ. <span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif;font-size:13px">"<i>You tend to twist people's words in order to score political points</i>" is NOT an ad hominem attack (see Wikipedia) because it does not use your behavior to weaken a specific argument of yours. It is rather a judgement </span><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">about your behavior, about whether you display (or not) the necessary fairness in representing somebody else's position. </span></div> <div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif"><br></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">To illustrate the point: </span><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">An ad hominem attack, would be for instance: "This person is usually lying, hence, when they (really) say A, this must not be true". However, </span><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">if someone says A and another person says: "this person said B and therefore this person is wrong and should be condemned", this IS twisting people's words. In this case, you are basically saying: Anriette did not explicitly denounce something, therefore she supports it. This is putting words in somebody else's mouth. </span></div> <div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif"><br></span></div><div><font face="arial, sans-serif">To be frank, I understand the tactic of discarding as an ad hominem attack a judgment about your behavior to avoid having to respond to it or ask yourself whether it is true. But it would be more credible if you did not yourself frequently attribute ulterior motives to other people's comments just because of their alleged political preferences, ties to certain types of actors (for instance business), geographical origin, lack of civil society purity, etc... </font></div> <div><font face="arial, sans-serif"><br></font></div><div><font face="arial, sans-serif">This behavior is harming the civility of discourse on this list and actually weakening its influence in the global debate. </font></div> <div><font face="arial, sans-serif"><br></font></div><div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">I always respect your expressing positions, even when I disagree with them and engage in debates with you. </span><font face="arial, sans-serif">But I resent your becoming one of the main sources of ad hominem attack on this list. </font><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">There are moments when one must call a spade a spade. I wish the co-coordinators of this list </span><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">had called your attitude to accountability earlier, for the sake of a sound debate.</span></div> <div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif"><br></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">This is below you. You have more to contribute. </span><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif"> </span></div> <div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif"><br></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">Respectfully still.</span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif"><br></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif">Bertrand</span></div> <div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif"> </span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif"><br></span></div><div><br></div><div class="gmail_extra"><br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Sun, Aug 4, 2013 at 8:37 AM, parminder <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:parminder@itforchange.net" target="_blank">parminder@itforchange.net</a>></span> wrote:<br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0px 0px 0px 0.8ex;border-left-width:1px;border-left-color:rgb(204,204,204);border-left-style:solid;padding-left:1ex"><div class="im"><br> On Friday 02 August 2013 02:39 PM, Avri Doria wrote:<br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0px 0px 0px 0.8ex;border-left-width:1px;border-left-color:rgb(204,204,204);border-left-style:solid;padding-left:1ex"> On 31 Jul 2013, at 09:33, parminder wrote:<br> <br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0px 0px 0px 0.8ex;border-left-width:1px;border-left-color:rgb(204,204,204);border-left-style:solid;padding-left:1ex"> ad hominem comment<br> </blockquote> (to misquote an old IETF adage - comments made wearing asbestos -<br> i tried to ignore this the first time hoping it would just go away and we could all get back to rational calm conversations)<br> <br> an ad hominem attack would be an attack that: because someone is a bully, their views are illegitimate/irrelevant.<br> It does not include the content of calling a bully a bully.<br> <br> I am not sure I have ever heard an ad hominem attack on this list.<br> </blockquote> <br></div> Then you are not quite right in your understanding of what is ad hominem. Literally, attack against man, it occurs when, in a discussion, someone attacks a person's character or personal traits, instead of, and with a view to undermine, her/ his argument. You are making a specious distinction above that does not hold. In middle of a discussion, personal attacks are almost always made - certainly in conditions like of this list, where people otherwise have little or no offline relationship and thus no particular reason for animosity - with a view to undermine that person's argument.<br> <br> On the other hand there is indeed some difference between just an allegation and an ad hominem attack.<br> <br> Saying something like , to stick to present case of Anriette's email to me, 'you are twisting my words' is an allegation. (Allegations themselves could become quite serious, like you are deceiving, lying, cheating etc, whereby they may be tending towards ad hominem.)<br> <br> , Ad hominem is when one says something like "you tend to twist people's words in order to score political points". That is attacking someone in terms of ones character and personal traits, and as in this case, obviously to distract from the argument made - which in this case what that Anriette seemed to see nothing wrong or new with the Indonesian document, which I said was problematic to me for a CS rep on the MAG to say, which is just my view. Nothing personal here.<div class="im"> <br> <br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0px 0px 0px 0.8ex;border-left-width:1px;border-left-color:rgb(204,204,204);border-left-style:solid;padding-left:1ex"> For example a comment one might hear: X is a terrible bully, but sometimes, if you can get past the bullying, X makes a lot of sense.<br> Another comment one might hear: I think I agree with what X is saying, but X is such a bully I am afraid that if I put my agreement in the wrong way I will get beat up for it.<br> <br> One could also say, I agree with a lot of what CX says, but X is just so mean.<br> <br> (I have versions of all of these about certain unnamed IGC participants)<br> <br> Those you accuse of ad hominem attacks against you, are among the greatest defenders off-list of some of the positions you represent.<br> Many of us disagree with you but would never dare say so on the list for fear of starting a flame war.<br> Many of the rest of us just try to hunker down and wait for the storm to pass.<br> </blockquote> <br></div> BTW, it is ad hominen whether the attack on one's character is made directly or rather more subtly. Your above statements themselves tends towards such an ad hominem attack, and you have very often said such things about me. And I claim you say it to undermine my arguments rather than anything else. However, I would give you an opportunity to disprove my claim. And I hope you will take this challenge. Please point out the precise language in the current exchange over the last few days that you find problematic in my emails, that is something other than a critique of someone's views, that I have a right to make, and rather of the nature of a personal attack. Please just give even one example. You may even go back further to earlier emails, becuase from the above it appears you are a very good record keeping and retrieval methods. Ok, I promise, I will not argue with the example/ instance you provide, I wont even respond, I just want it to out for everyone to see, rather that your be subject to your insinuations.<div class="im"> <br> <br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0px 0px 0px 0.8ex;border-left-width:1px;border-left-color:rgb(204,204,204);border-left-style:solid;padding-left:1ex"> Someone/everyone, please stop the venom.<br> It has rendered the IGC nearly irrelevant.<br> </blockquote> <br></div> I have a different theory of what has rendered IGC irrelevant, which I am ready to enter a discussion about.<div class="im"><br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0px 0px 0px 0.8ex;border-left-width:1px;border-left-color:rgb(204,204,204);border-left-style:solid;padding-left:1ex"> When the IGC is discussed, pretty much the main content is the outrageousness of a few individuals.<br> </blockquote> <br></div> Certainly, I do often express strong feelings on some views - not people, never - that I feel strongly about. (And the fact is that there enough degree of difference in views on this list that at times one side and at other times the other side will feel strongly about things.) But, never against any person as such, unlike what I am almost regularly subjected to. Again, I am open to be given an instance to prove my statement wrong. As for personal attacks on me, apart from Anriette's email, even your reference above of not responding to me with the fear of starting a flame war is such an attack, although a somewhat lighter one, given the normal standards.<br> <br> (Another thing - yes, I have a structural critique of the role and positions of a good part of civil society involved in IG space - often dominant in its expression - and its support for certain power structures, which I do often voice, which I understand may not go well with some people. But I always voice it in a collective structural manner and never directed at an individual, or even a set f them. This is the view I have - and I consider it very important in the current global circumstances - and I cannot desist from offering when the occasion so demands.)<div class="im"> <br> <br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0px 0px 0px 0.8ex;border-left-width:1px;border-left-color:rgb(204,204,204);border-left-style:solid;padding-left:1ex"> The words of a few serving to delegitimize the efforts of many.<br> </blockquote> <br></div> Well, that, who are 'few' and who 'many' itself needs to examined.... That is always the million dollar democratic question!<span class=""><font color="#888888"><br> <br> parminder</font></span><div class=""><div class="h5"><br> <br> <blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0px 0px 0px 0.8ex;border-left-width:1px;border-left-color:rgb(204,204,204);border-left-style:solid;padding-left:1ex"> please stop<br> <br> Note to coordinators. 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